Dale carnegie quotes

In talking with people, don't begin by discussing the things on which you differ. Begin by emphasizing - and keep on emphasizing - the things on which you agree. Keep emphasizing, if possible, that you are both striving for the same end and that your only difference is one of method and not of purpose.

Fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.

People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.

If we think happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we think miserable thoughts, we will be miserable.

Try honest to see things from the other person's point of view.

All the king's horses and all the king's men can't put the past together again. So let's remember: Don't try to saw sawdust.

When dealing with people, let us remember that we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity. ...Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain - and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.

Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

The world is so full of people who are grabbing and self-seeking. So the rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage. He has little competition.

Don't be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.

One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.

Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.

Remember that other people may be totally wrong. But they don't think so. Don't condemn them. Any fool can do that. Try to understand them. Only wise, tolerant, exceptional people even try to do that.

If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive.

A smile is nature's best antidote for discouragement. It brings rest to the weary, sunshine to those who are frowning, and hope to those who are hopeless and defeated. A smile is so valuable that it can't be bought, begged, borrowed, or taken away against your will. You have to be willing to give a smile away before it can do anyone else any good. So if someone is too tired or grumpy to flash you a smile, let him have one of yours anyway. Nobody needs a smile as much as the person who has none to give.

The biggest lesson I have learned is the stupendous importance of what we think. If I knew what you think, I would know what you are, for your thoughts make you what you are; by changing our thoughts, we can change our lives.

Remember happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think.

When I asked him -Mr.Henry Ford- if he ever worried, he replied: "No. I believe God is managing affairs and that He doesn't need any advice from me. With God in charge, I believe that every-thing will work out for the best in the end. So what is there to worry about?

Flattery is from the teeth out. Sincere appreciation is from the heart out.

Life truly is a boomerang. What you give, you get.

Face the thing that seems overwhelming and you will be surprised how your fear will melt away.

Believe that you will succeed, and you will.

People aren't interested in you. They're interested in themselves

You are going to survive. And good things are going to start to happen again. And one day you are going to look back and this will not even be such a bad thing

If you can be kind and considerate for one day, then you can be for another. It won't cost you a penny in the world. Begin today.

Improving yourself is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others.

The life of many a person could probably be changed if only someone would make him feel important.

You never achieve success unless you like what you are doing.

Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, 'I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.' That is why dogs make such a hit. They are so glad to see us that they almost jump out of their skins. So, naturally, we are glad to see them.

Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding.

First ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst.

Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.

Our thoughts make us what we are.

The world is filled with interesting things to do. Don't lead a dull life in such a thrilling world.

Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.

Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.

One of the worst features about worrying is that it destroys our ability to concentrate. When we worry, our minds jump here and there and everywhere, and we lose all power of decision. However, when we force ourselves to face the worst and accept it mentally, we then eliminate all those vague imaginings and put ourselves in a position in which we are able to concentrate on our problem.

if you want to keep happiness , you have to share it !

There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.

Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.

The best things in life are yours, if you can appreciate yourself.

The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way.

The person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness in another's keeping .

Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.

So if you aspire to be a good conversationali st, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments

Don't Criticize, Condemn, Or Complain.

Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds.

When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means we have everything to gain.

Fear is the result of a lack of confidence. A lack of confidence is the result of not knowing what you can do. A lack of knowing what you can do is caused by a lack of experience. A lack of experience is caused by a lack of doing something new.

Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

The only way on Earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.

If you do something for someone else, never remember. If someone does something for you, never forget.

We can't win friends with a scowling face and an upbraiding voice.

Keep your mind open to change all the time. Welcome it. Court it. It is only by examining and reexamining your opinions and ideas that you can progress.

You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.

Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction.

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.

If you want to be a good conversationalist, be a good listener. To be interesting, be interested.

Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.

Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.

Forget yourself by becoming interested in others. Do every day a good deed that will put a smile of joy on someone's face.

By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.

Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

Don't ask a man what is important to him. Watch how he spends his time

Tell me what gives a man or woman their greatest pleasure and I'll tell you their philosophy of life.

People do things for "their" reasons, not ours. So find their reasons.

If you can't sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It's the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep.

Five hundred years before Christ was born, the Greek philosopher Heraclitus told his students that "everything changes except the law of change". He said: "You cannot step in the same river twice." The river changes every second; and so does the man who stepped in it. Life is a ceaseless change. The only certainty is today. Why mar the beauty of living today by trying to solve the problems of a future that is shrouded in ceaseless change and uncertainty-a future that no one can possibly foretell?

An old man was asked what had robbed him of joy in his life. His reply was, "Things that never happened."

I've found that worry and irritation vanish into thin air the moment I open my mind to the many blessings I possess.

Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do. But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.

Pay less attention to what men say. Just watch what they do.

There is no such thing as constructive criticism.

Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it... that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear.

Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare.

All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory.

It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.

If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don't want to be.

The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.

Do the very best you can.

No matter what happens, always be yourself.

The way to defeat fear: decide on a course of conduct and follow it. Keep so busy and work so hard that you forget about being afraid.

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.

If you must make a mistake, make a new one each time.

Everybody in the world is seeking happiness - and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.

It isn't work that makes you tired, it's your mental attitude.

Success in dealing with people depends on sympathetic grasp of the other person's viewpoint.

Nobody is more persuasive than a good listener

For better or worse, you must play your own little instrument in the orchestra of life.

Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.

Learning is an active process. We learn by doing.. Only knowledge that is used sticks in your mind.

There is one all-important law of human conduct. If we obey that law, we shall almost never get into trouble. In fact, that law, if obeyed, will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless trouble. The law is this: Always make the other person feel important.

It is the way we react to circumstances that determines our feelings.

An hour of planning can save you 10 hours of doing.

Let us not get so busy or live so fast that we can't listen to the music of the meadow or the symphony that glorifies the forest. Some things in the world are far more important than wealth; one of them is the ability to enjoy simple things.

Once I did bad and that I heard ever. Twice I did good, but that I heard never.

Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health and our happiness. Our enemies would dance with joy if only they knew how they were worrying us, lacerating us, and getting even with us! Our hate is not hurting them at al, but our hate is turning our days and nights into a hellish turmoil.

Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime.

When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness.

If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

A ship in the harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for. Intelligence is like underwear, everyone has it, but you don't have to show it off. The expression a woman wears on her face is more important than the clothes she wears on her back.

The words "Think and Thank" are inscribed in many of the Cromwellian churches of England. These words ought to be inscribed in our hearts, too: "Think and Thank". Think of all we have to be grateful for, and thank God for all our boons and bounties.

We move toward what we picture in our minds.

Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves.

Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely upon what you think. So start each day by thinking of all the things you have to be thankful for. Your future will depend very largely on the thoughts you think today. So think thoughts of hope and confidence and love and success.

Everyday is a new life to a wise man.

You are something new in this world. Never before, since the beginning of time, has there ever been anybody exactly like you; and never again throughout all the ages to come will there ever be anybody exactly like you again.

If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

Try leaving a trail of little sparks of gratitude on your daily trips. You will be surprised how they will set small flames of friendship that will be rose beacons on your next visit.

Did you ever see an unhappy horse? Did you ever see bird that had the blues? One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.

90% of all management problems are caused by miscommunication.

Knowledge isn’t power until it is applied.

Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes them strive to justify themselves. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts their sense of importance, and arouses resentment.

you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry

The value of a smile... It costs nothing, but creates much. It enriches those who receive, without impoverishing those who give. It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None are so rich they can get along without it, and none so poor but are richer for its benefits. It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign of friends.

George Bernard Shaw was right. He summed it all up when he said: "The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not." So don't bother to think about it! Spit on your hands and get busy. Your blood will start circulating; your mind will start ticking-and pretty soon this whole positive upsurge of life in your body will drive worry from your mind. Get busy. Keep busy. It's the cheapest kind of medicine there is on this earth-and one of the best.

Good leaders are scarce; so I'm following myself.

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

Even god doesn't propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?

Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.

If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: Become genuinely interested in other people.